Joel: As of now, I have only dated two women of trans experience, both of whom were pre-op, but I am open to dating post-op as well. It’s more about the feminine energies she gives off. Some of the world's most beautiful women are trans and I can tell that they are. Is it important to you for a trans woman to “pass” as a cisgender woman? Also, do you gauge your attraction to trans women based on whether they’re pre, non, or post-op? It was a good experience, and I met up with like 8 to 10 more trans women. After that, when I was 18, I downloaded Grindr. Jeremy: After I began masturbating to trans porn, I sought out trans women online. I kind of became a sugar daddy to some women and would meet them as often as I could. Not many, since I couldn’t afford to, but I did “experiment.” I then met a few girls via online chat rooms, Facebook, etc. During that time, Pose helped catapult my liking for trans women.Ĭhris: At one point, I started seeing trans women prostitutes. In 2018, I finally was able to get to know one lady and go on actual dates. In 2017, I decided that I’d had enough of what people would think, and succumbed to my desire of wanting to know and date trans women seriously. But I knew I was not happy dating cis women. Joel: I went back to dating cis women and didn’t bring myself to actually date trans women for a while due to the shaming that men, especially African-American men, receive-like the threat of being “exposed” for dating trans women. The other was a guy who was familiar with and dated trans women. One was a heteronormative, married family man.

Troy: I literally built two separate lives. Joel: My attraction started with pornography and evolved into being a John and tricking with some street workers. Trans women had previously been normalized for me on the Robin Byrd Show when I was about eight and I saw how they weren’t different than any of the other girls.

Jeremy: I first realized I was interested in trans women when I watched trans porn as a teenager. I didn't know what that really meant at the time. I didn't find out she was a trans woman until six weeks later. She was in trouble and I stepped up and took her home. Troy: I met my first trans woman in 1983. They made fun of her, but I found myself very attracted to the photo. VICE: When did you first realize you were attracted to trans women?Ĭhris: In my late teens, while in college, my friends passed around a photo of a trans woman with a large penis.

My first time with a trans woman